I am a 19 year old girl, who has taken a vow of celibacy with my church. I want to save myself for when I get married. I have recently met a guy a year older than I am who I might want to marry someday, but I don't want to have sex with him until we do happen to get married. I've been dumped before because of my vow. Should I tell him now or wait? -- Serious celibate
You are totally mentally screwed up. The only thing you said that halfway makes sense is that you may possibly be waiting to get married. Not having sex makes no sense. If you want to save relationship, give it up. And use birth control. And get an abortion, if the birth control fails. You are old enough for sex, but not old enough to have children.
Religion is for the mentally weak and superstitious. Yes, that means I am talking about at least 80% of the world. And look at the state of the world. Too many troubled relationships because of screwed up sexual "morality". I would say, yes tell him now. But you probably won't, since you probably figure you can hook him with your dazzling personality alone. If he is smart, he will also kick your ass to the curb when he finds out what a ditz you are. That could be now, or after several dates or months. He is in for a bad relationships with you. I hope he figures it out sooner than later. And you should get counseling. -- Abbie