Safe Dating Guidelines for Women Dating Online

On the web you are able now discover, pick and arrange loads of enjoyable and exciting dates. You have lots of of options to facilitate the procedure, such as instant messaging, online dating forums, social network sites, and dating web sites. The preliminaries can be handled by way of the different web sites or more directly by e-mail.

The procedure can at times be slow and time consuming. But the preliminaries can be done whenever you have the time, at whatever time you prefer. There are no assurances for locating "the one" and "living happily ever after", but because of its potential rewards internet dating has emerged as one of the quickest and most accepted ways to discover a date!

You will be nervous and excited when you are going to meet someone new face-to-face initially, who you met on the internet. But bear in mind to be observant, as online chats, emails, texting, etc., are not the same as encountering someone at work, in a club, or at a social activity. You've hopefully cut through a lot of the b.s. with the internet, but you still need to form a face-to-face assessment. Following are eight tips to make sure of a positive and secure first meet experience.

Eight Guidelines to Have an Enjoyable and Safe "First-Meet" in Real-Life with an online Date

1. Choose a reliable singles or dating website

Check out the web site thoroughly. Look at their confidentiality, financial security, fees and contract, if any, terms. Use a search engine to research what others think of the service. Search on both their URL and the company name, in quotes. Ignore the first several pages of search engine results. You are looking for what actual people say about the service, not what affiliates and shills think. You will find the sincere stuff several pages down. Keep in mind, that as with anything, you will see more negatives than favorable reviews, because those with negative experiences are more prone to find fault. So look to see if any disapproving remarks appear levelheaded, or are they just from losers (men) who are penniless, or (gals) who are overweight, unattractive, with a litter of monster kids at home.

2. Give your date your cellphone number for a contact number

Provide your date with your cell-phone telephone number instead of your home or work telephone number. That will greatly reduce problems if the date doesn't go well.

3. Meet in a public place.

Don't have your date pick you up at your apartment or home. Acceptable locations for rendezvousing on a first date include coffee shops, coffee bars, and restaurants. Those places are easy to meet at and there are other people around.

4. Let somebody else about your date itinerary.

Always disclose your first date itinerary with a family member or close friend.

5. Provide your own transportation.

Arrive at your date location with your own car, or by taxi, and be prepared to leave in the same way. Have enough gasoline in your car's gas tank or enough money for taxi fare in addition to your other possible expenses for the date, which leads to the next point...

6. Offer to go dutch treat.

Pay half of the tab. Regardless of it is just a a drink or two, a coffee and pastry, or a dinner, be ready to pay your portion. In that way, you will not be "obligated" to your date.

7. Set a limit for your drinking.

Remember that too much drinking will affect your judgment. So limit your drinking to a couple of drinks or one or two glasses of wine. Maybe an even better plan is to pass on alcohol completely, on your first date.

8. Listen to your intuition

If you feel uneasy at the beginning of the date after you first meet, you may as well call it off and leave. And, assuming you do hit it off, bear in mind to continue to be observant.

If a Simple Valentine's Day Card Isn't Enough...

Dear Abbie:
My girl-friend keeps making not-so-subtle hints that she is expecting more (probably much more) than a card for Valentine's day. When out on the promenade, she has to stop in front of every jewelry window, squealing "isn't that cuuute!" and all that. She is my girl-friend, but not THAT much of a girl-friend. Do I bite the bullet and get the bling or what? -- Pressured.

Dear Pressured:
If a simple Valentine's Day card isn't enough, DTB (Dump that Beeatch). There's plenty more money-grubbing poon around. If you should have a girl-friend at all, you should be changing them at least once a year, anyway. Now sounds like a good time.

The DeBeers diamond cartel and Hallmark Cards have really done a job in escalating the expectations of females. Even if they are in troubled relationships, even bad relationships, they think that getting the bling will save relationship. Or will make up for being in bad relationships. But you can always say "No." After all, the feminists like to remind men that "No, means no", don't they?

But if you half-way want to keep hanging with her, get her some crotchless panties and see what her reaction is.

Hope this helps. ;>)

BTW, why not get YOURSELF some bling instead? Like a wristwatch that indicates (rightly or wrongly) that you are making a lot of money. That can be a panty-wetter for prospective new girlfriends. Doesn't mean you have to spend a lot on THEM, though. Spend it on yourself; get yourself a luxury wristwatch. Luxury Fine Wristwatches

-- Abbie

Deadbeat Dads -- Boo Hoo!

Dear Abbie:
I have a 2-year old that I need child support for. And the guy that I think got me pregnant has skipped. I really need some child support money. The county isn't really doing much for me. -- Desperate Single Mom.

Dear Desperate:
You're not going to get any help here. You blew it, and I have NO sympathy for you and your future car-jacker or crack whore spawn. Now, there is nothing the matter with unmarried sex; that isn't the point here. The point is, you bimbos should NOT be having sex unless:

1) You are willing to have an abortion should you get an unwanted pregnancy, and/or

2) You can afford a kid -- by yourself. Chances are, the guy didn't really want it, so if YOU have it, YOU pay for it.

I'm tired of you bimbos dropping litters of spawn with no more forethought than cats, rats, and dogs, then expecting everyone else to cater to you because you are a MOTHER (sob, sniffle). Puke. You have it, it's YOUR resposibility, no one else's.

And in your case, you're not even sure who the father is. Sheesh.

-- Abbie

Old but not Out of Life

Dear Abbie:
I am a 50+ year old man and still want to get laid by younger girls, not old ladies. But I have gotten too old for the bar and club scene.

Church groups -- fuggedaboudit -- old dried up religious cranks desperately looking for "relationships". They could be bad relationships, troubled relationships, sexless relationships, as long as it's a relationship. None of that is for me

Activist groups -- fuggedaboudit -- politically correct ball-busters and fem-fags (lesbians).

Any ideas? -- HornyOldGoat.

Dear Horny:
You're in luck - a new eBook has just became available that tells how to use Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) aka Network Marketing to get laid. You may not make much, if any, money, but what you're looking for is in abundance. The book tells about the psychology of women, and especially of women in MLM, and how to take advantage of that.

Update: Sorry, that book is no longer available -- Abbie

No Parental Consent for Abortion Needed

Since so many parents are wacked-out Christians or other wacko religionists, when a girl gets pregnant, she should be able to get an abortion without parental consent. These wacko Christians and others would rather see an existing life ruined, giving it less priority than a blob of tissue. "Soul" is a concept derived by and believed in only by primitive, superstitious savages -- even if those savages have delusions of mental superiority because just by accident of their birth, they happened to be born in a "developed" country.

So many troubled relationships and outright bad relationships result from "forced" marriages because of pregnancy. Pregnancy and childbirth should not be a "punishment" for violating some primitive religious taboo derived from an unfounded, unjustified concept of "soul".

-- Abbie

Celibacy Sucks

Dear Abbie:
I am a 19 year old girl, who has taken a vow of celibacy with my church. I want to save myself for when I get married. I have recently met a guy a year older than I am who I might want to marry someday, but I don't want to have sex with him until we do happen to get married. I've been dumped before because of my vow. Should I tell him now or wait? -- Serious celibate

Dear Serious:
You are totally mentally screwed up. The only thing you said that halfway makes sense is that you may possibly be waiting to get married. Not having sex makes no sense. If you want to save relationship, give it up. And use birth control. And get an abortion, if the birth control fails. You are old enough for sex, but not old enough to have children.

Religion is for the mentally weak and superstitious. Yes, that means I am talking about at least 80% of the world. And look at the state of the world. Too many troubled relationships because of screwed up sexual "morality". I would say, yes tell him now. But you probably won't, since you probably figure you can hook him with your dazzling personality alone. If he is smart, he will also kick your ass to the curb when he finds out what a ditz you are. That could be now, or after several dates or months. He is in for a bad relationships with you. I hope he figures it out sooner than later. And you should get counseling. -- Abbie

Abortion - Good for Her

Dear Abbie:
Our 17 year old daughter had an abortion without consulting with us. How could she do that without consulting with us? Why? -- Devastated.

Dear Devastated:
Good for her! The reason she had the abortion without consulting you is that she knew that you would be devastated. That you probably would try to prevent it. I would guess that you are religious wackos. She made a mistake (in getting pregnant -- not in having the abortion), but it looks like she has more sense than you do.

Sex is a natural function, even for teenagers. If parents were not so screwed up themselves about sex, they would not have the bad relationships -- troubled relationships -- with their children about sex.

Religion is for the mentally weak and superstitious. Yes, that means I am talking about at least 80% of the world. There is nothing wrong with abortion. It is idiots like you that want to see more unwanted babies brought into the world to become future gang-bangers, car jackers and drug addicts.

If you want to save relationship with your daughter, you have to support her decision and get over your "devastation". -- Abbie

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